Who needs haters?

Yesterday, one of my friends, Emmanuel, wrote this status on Facebook: “Haters only matter to those who don’t love themselves enough. Contrary 2 popular belief, you don’t “need” them…”

Now, if you know anything about me or have read a couple of my posts on for colored gurls, you know how I feel about the words ‘hate’ and ‘hating.’ If you don’t know, those words are two of the most over-and misused words I hear. Not only that, I often wonder why people like the idea of having haters and say they want more.

After reading the status, I started thinking about it, and me being the analyzer I am, I came up with a little theory Lol. Of course, this is just my opinion, so anyhoo…I think people who feel that haters are necessary need validation of their worth— they need to feel like what they’re doing is worthwhile. It’s like, if their actions don’t make others envy them and their lives, it’s not worth doing.

Somebody basically told me that very thing. One week on Facebook, I kept seeing aaallll these statuses about having haters, and I asked in my status something like, Why do people feel they have haters, and why do people want them? Someone replied: ‘When people hate what you are doing or in general, that is motivation…would we strive or how much would we strive if not for haters helping us stay focused?…’

I get that everyone wants to feel their actions mean something and are valuable, but I don’t think negative attention is the best way to go— but that’s just me. It’s just kind of crazy to me that someone would use haters as his/her motivation to do something. I don’t do the things I do because I want someone to be jealous of me; I do it because I want to, and I’m motivated by a higher purpose. In fact, having haters is the furthest thing from my mind every day (I think Katt Williams started this whole thing with that sketch…but I digress Lol).

Jealousy and envy are ugly traits, and I don’t anyone to feel that way towards me. Instead, I want people to love themselves and their gifts, and I want them to know they are worthy and realize they can have whatever they want. And, in my opinion, it shouldn’t take a “hater” or jealous person to make them feel that way. So yeah, those are my thoughts on the matter…

I’d love to hear your thoughts…What do ya’ll think?

NIGHTNIGHT by DEDDY